Wednesday, August 1, 2012

Energy


I need you to stick with me for a minute here.

I was talking to someone about my kids today. She was commenting on how nice it was for me to be out of the house, all alone. And that IS nice, of course. I enjoy being in the car alone, running errands in half the time, having the choice to buy a cupcake and not have to share.

I'm not sure how we got to this point, but she mentioned not even being able to make a phone call in peace. And THEN she mentioned that she had been told that there's a reason for that. The reason that children immediately need you the moment you take a phone call is because your energy is being redirected away from them. This is where you need to stick with me!

She contends that parents have an energy and your children are aware of this energy. They use it as a sort of echo-location and they're aware of where you are in relation to them. When take your energy and direct it elsewhere, particularly into a phone conversation where it's hard to multitask because you can only communicate by speaking and listening, (you cant see the person, they can't see you, so you need to focus on the phone) you've taken that energy away and they become aware of that void.

Now, a million disclaimers: this was a conversation had on a beach, in the middle of discussing party plans. She didn't cite her source and I've done zero minutes of research into her claims since then.

HOWEVER. Doesn't that make perfect sense? Or have I gone off the crazy Californian deep end?




7 comments:

  1. It does make sense. Like when you try to eat in peace, or sneak a treat in the pantry, or use the bathroom. OMG, they will also wake from a dead sleep when you try to have "special mommy-daddy time". I think it sound like an interesting theory.

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  2. I recognize this theory from Anthony E. Wolf books, although he doesn't give it a California spin: just that they notice you're paying attention to someone else, and they want not only your attention but also your potential attention.

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  3. I can see how this could be true--Hannah seems to be at her very sweetest and most demanding right when I'm about to study. They know something is up, and whether that's energy or just keen awareness of their surroundings is up to wonder, but the effect is the same! I think dogs may have this same 'ability' too; one of ours always starts barking when my husband and I are deeply engaged in conversation, and another starts jumping up on us.

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  4. I was thinking along the lines of swistle... Swap out energy with attention ... Same thing...

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  5. NO. Not crazy! My kids can be totally zoned out on the television and the SECOND I pick up the phone and try to call someone suddenly everyone dogpiles on Mama. IT IS CRAZYMAKING.

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  6. I believe that's true in the same way I believe in Karma - no actual energy or other california craziness involved, but just like you generally DO get back what you put out there with karma, kids do notice when you aren't paying attention to them.

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  7. TRUE!!!!!!! no crazniess.

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